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Establishing Online Dating Relationships: Safety First

Online dating can be fun. But dont neglect safety and common sense when you try to hook up with a mate. At minimum, take caution in the following areas. Protect Your Computer Take care of your equipment and systems before you head out into the Internet realm. You need to have a firewall and anti-virus protection for your email and for when you search websites and interact online. At the bare minimum, you may want these two solutions that are offered at no charge to home computer users (i.e. not for commercial use): Free Firewall Download: ZoneAlarm www.zonelabs.com Free Anti-Virus Download: AVG Anti-Virus www.grisoft.com Protect Yourself Take care of yourself, too, by choosing appropriate dating sites. Seek and choose a reputable online dating service. How? Begin by asking around with friends, neighbors, co-workers and others you may know who have tried online dating, and see which places they recommend. In addition, search online dating services and keep a notebook of their URLs or w...

Blind Date vs Internet Date

Your friend has decided that you need help with your social life so she sets you up with a blind date....a friend of a friend of a friend. You, foolishly, accept. Now there you are. It`s less than one hour since you were introduced. You are sitting in a Thai restaurant and you hate Thai food. The entre has not yet been served. His idea of enlightened conversation is who will be in the final four...you aren`t into sports. He knows the weekly TV schedule verbatim....you haven`t sat through a movie in months because you run marathons and volunteer at the local food bank. He says, \"Volunteering is a waste of time because you can`t help those people` anyway.\" You look at your watch; see that it`s only been 10 minutes since you last looked at it the last time and wonder how long it is before you can gracefully remove yourself from the situation. Been there? Now imagine a date with someone you met through internet dating and have been chatting online with and exchanging em...

Ask the Right Questions First

OK. You have joined a couple of dating services and written a killer profile. Youve uploaded a good picture and now you are going to chat with a contact. What now? How do you start separating those who have real potential and those who dont have any potential at all? You need to find out something about who this strange woman really is and not just who she wants you to believe she is. It would be nice if women wore labels like Gold Digger or Daddys girl.but they dont so its up to you to find these things out and you cant just ask direct questions. You need to know what mistakes you can avoid making and how to impress this lady if you decide you want to do that. After you are past the initial small talk, ask her, What are the biggest mistakes guys make when dating online? Listen carefully to her answers. Shes going to tell you a lot about herself and her views on men in general. Next you should ask her, What do you really think about online dating? Now she will tell you if s...

A Womans Donts of Online Dating

There are some things that women should never do while engaged in an online relationship with a man. These things are certain to put a quick and final end to any further communications with him. While chatting online or by email do not write your life story. His eyes will glaze over and he will fall out of his chair. Keep it short and sweet until he asks for detailsthen provide them slowly and only answer the questions he asks. For instance: If he asks how many siblings you have, he is NOT asking for the details of your interaction with them. He really just wants to know how many you have. Say you have 2 (or whatever is true) and then ask how many he has. For every question he asks you, you should ask one of him. Nothing turns a man off like a long- winded woman who just doesnt know when to shut up or how to listen. Never, ever, EVER lie. I really believe that lies will catch up with you sooner or later. Many women (and men) lie about their age, marital status, employment,...

A Woman`s Guide to Writing a Great Profile

OKthe time has come. You have joined an online dating service or two. Now you must write that all-important profile the one that will attract attention and reel in the man of your dreams but where to start? Maybe writing isnt even something you think you do all that well. Even so, you can do this. The first thing is to be absolutely honest about yourself. You are looking for that man who will likemaybe someday loveYOU.THE REAL YOU! Examine past relationships and list the things that you liked and the things you did not like. If he smoked in the house and you hated it, you wont like it any better the next time. If you love cats and will always want to own one or more, say that you are an animal lover and want indoor pets. Someone who hates cats or is allergic to them is not the guy for you. Accent the things that make you unique. If you play the piano well, you really want Mr. Right to appreciate it. If you run in marathons, a couch potato is not a good match. If you love art, you reall...

A Man`s Secrets to Successful Online Dating

People have taken to online dating like a duck takes to waterbecause it worksor, at least, it can work. Women are, in general, terrified of meeting a man that she has been chatting with online. All they have heard about are the scary things that can happenand, I must say, they have a right to be careful to the extreme. Thats not only wise but vital. So whats a nice guy to do? You arent a pervert, a sexual predator, or a weirdo. You are just a nice guy looking for the girl for you. You must be patient. Dont press her for personal information like her real name or where she lives. Keep your conversations light and fun until she feels comfortable talking with you online. Dont try to rush her into meeting face-to-face. She will think you are desperate or a pervert. Patience. Patience. Patience. Be absolutely honest about your physical appearance and job. A good relationship has never been, and will never be, built on lies and deceit. Eventually she will find out the truth a...

3 Online Dating Mistakes to Avoid

While you search the internet for that special ladythe one of your dreamsyour soul-matethe other half of yourself, you can do a lot of things right. Sadly, you can, also, do a lot of things wrong.things that will guarantee failure and a broken heart. Out in the real world, being aggressive, demanding perfection and even little white lies are all ingredients for success. However, those same qualities are killers when you are dating online and off line, too, for that matter. There is a big difference between being aggressive or confident and being too aggressive, over-confident, or just plain sleazy or slimy from a womans point of view. If you push too hard for a face-to-face, you will come across as too aggressivemaybe even, scary. Try to remember that you are not trying to close a business deal and keep the relationship progressing at a slow but steady pace. Patience is the key. Nobody is perfect. We are all flawed in some way or anotherand that includes you, as well. If you ...